Bottoming is hard work. First of all, you need to do the preparation. This is the part tops don’t usually witness. It’s the half our squeezing and squatting that makes the magic of sex possible.
Next there’s the warming up. No one does a black diamond course their first time skiing – and no one goes from tight hole to huge cock without a little training. Many bottoms do a bit of behind-the-scenes warming up so that they’re good to go when it’s time to get it on.
All this is to say that bottoming is an impressive feat when you think about all of the time it takes to become good at it. That’s why today we’re going to explore some of the tell-tale signs that someone is a truly gifted bottom.
1. A Wild Ride
Starfish bottoms are the worst kind of hookup. You know the type — that bottom who just lays there and expects the top to plow him, face down on the bed. Now while going to town on a submissive bottom might be a top’s dream, it usually involves a little more engagement on the bottom’s part, regardless of the dom/sub dynamic.
But for every starfish bottom there is one who knows how to work a dick. Who knows how to climb on top and rock his man’s world by rocking his hips. In addition to being able to take dick well, the bottom needs to know how to move his body in a way that is both hot to watch and feels good.
But wait, there’s more. Riding a guy while facing him is impressive, but riding him in reverse is a whole other skill. Because of the general upward curve of a cock, it can be logistically challenging to ride in reverse without bending the top’s dick in an uncomfortable way. That’s what makes this kind of bottoming impressive. When you get the angle just right, it feels great, and the top gets a hot view of his cock sliding in and out of your hole.
2. Big Challenges
This one’s pretty obvious, but surprisingly rare. For a culture seemingly obsessed with huge dicks, not that many bottoms can actually take a monster in the bedroom. It seems many bottoms talk the talk, but can they take the cock?
Now if you want to master riding big cocks, it’s going to take practice. This means getting toys that scale up in size and slowly conquering each one until your hole can go from pinhole to highway underpass with relative ease.
Of course it isn’t all about girth. Sometimes taking a long cock is challenging, too. That said, a bottom who can handle length and girth is a true gem.
3. Props to Fisting
There are few bottoming feats as tough as taking an entire hand up your ass. That’s just the truth. It requires similar training to taking huge cocks. Practice, practice, practice, and a whole lot of lube.
The reason fisting is such an allure is that sometimes the feeling of your ass being spread wide is more intense than having it penetrated deep.
All that in mind, it doesn’t really need to be explained why being able to take a fist is impressive. If you can take a fist, you can take just about anything.
4. Double Trouble
Sometimes handling one top is tough, but handling two can be exhausting. Twice the dick means twice the wear and tear on your hole, and in the case of double penetration, twice the stretching.
A loud and proud bottom will have mastered the art of doubling up.
And for those looking to try this out for the first time – start small. Don’t go trying to get two monsters in there on your first try. Work your way up and you’ll be straddling two hung studs in no time.
Bottoming takes a tole after a while, and one man can only tolerate having his insides knocked around for so long. That said, a good bottom has built up the stamina to take cock for a good while before tapping out.
The secret, however, in addition to practice, is not being ashamed to add more lube. Your body is a machine and it needs to be well-lubricated if the moving parts are going to hold up.
A master bottom isn’t afraid to keep going and isn’t afraid to demand the lube he needs to do that.